Individualism in the Church

We hate to admit it. We hate it to hear it. Yet, if we are truly honest, many churches are less community-like than most of us would like. Just take the Sunday service for example. Servants are few, consumers are many. More people grab stuff for themselves than to give away to others. Ask people to give and there will be few responses. Ask people to take things for free, and the responses will be overwhelming. From free food to free use of the Church facilities, people are coming to church with a sense of entitlement rather than a heart of service. For example, those serving in the Church make self-sacrificial service to come extra early to set things up for the rest of the congregation. Yet, there is a perennial number of people who choose come late, consistently. Despite the attempts to instill punctuality, they still turn up late. It is not a time or scheduling problem. It is a human problem. It is a problem with pride and sin. It is a problem that often gets accepted rather than addressed.

Today, I like to suggest that the problem goes much deeper. It is individualism. The lack of care and concern about how one's behaviour affects the rest of the community is a case in point. Let me give some bullet point examples.

• "Why should I give when the Church is already so wealthy?"
• "Why should I volunteer when there is already paid staff to do the work?"
• "I come late, so why is that a problem to you?"

I wonder how these individuals will feel, if their actions impede the whole worship experience for early worshipers.  I know some worshipers are irritated when their singing experience gets rudely interrupted by a tap on the shoulder to move to another seat to make space for latecomers.

Whether it is outreach, serving in Church, or helping the community, the three most common excuses people have are:

1. "I am busy."
2. "I don't know how."
3. "I fear."

All of us manifest evidence in varying degrees of the top three excuses. It is easy to justify saying that busyness and no-time throughout the week. The question I then ask is, "Am I not busy too?" For those that do not know how, I question them whether they want to remain in that condition forever. For those who fear, I wonder what kind of faith they are living. The opposite of fear is faith.

Individualism reigns supreme in many churches. A recovering alcoholic gives this indicting comment after receiving great help from the community at Alcoholics Anonymous. 

"After I had at last been part of a real community where we loved each other enough to be honest, to sacrifice our time and energy to aid others in their struggle with alcohol, the sweet superficiality of mu church was repulsive. When I tried to share with them some of the insights I gained from my own struggle, they looked at me like I was crazy, like my struggle was a purely personal problem." (Thomas Naylor, William Willimon, and Magdalena Naylor, The Search for Meaning, Nashville, TN: Abingdon, 1994, p107)

In contrast, the early church literally shared everything and gave all they have to assist one another. The modern church has become devoid of such culture. Our modern culture has infected the church with individualism. Unwittingly, not only is the church learning to mind its own business, it has forgotten the Lord's business. Individualism must be recognized. It must be redeemed with a healthy understanding of self-need, and balanced with a constructive view of community living. Here are three biblical principles with regards to building community. It is in order of commitment.

First, learn about community by thinking right, and planning well. It begins with a mindset change about what community is all about.  It is not about thinking of ourselves all the time. It is thinking appropriately about ourselves. Irvin D Yalom writes, "Not to take possession of your life plan is to let your existence be an accident." Paul writes in 2 Corinthians 9:6 "The point is this: whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully will also reap bountifully."  

Like weeds, individualism takes root when we are sleeping, or waking. It grows without us knowing it. When it comes to helping people, a person who does not plan his/her own life will end up retreating back to a vacuum of unmet needs. How can one who is empty help to fill another? The maxim is true. If we fail to plan, we plan to fail. When we fail to plan for our own lives, the default is what the world tells us. "Take care of yourselves first. Mind your own business." This unfortunately increases individualism especially when we fail to plan for ourselves first.

Second, learn to look at the needs of others before self.  

"The ultimate test of whether or not a collection of individuals is a community is whether the members are seriously concerned about one another's well-being." (Naylor, Willimon, and Naylor, The Search for Meaning, 130).

The biblical principle for community living is: "Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others." (Philippians 2:4)

If we are constantly on the look to benefit others, will it not increase the level of service in Church, the punctuality as well as any outreach in the Church? Perhaps, the biggest indictment on any church failing to reach out is that it is too overwhelmed with its own inner problems.

Third, live a life of self-sacrifice, just like Christ. This is perhaps the toughest thing for anyone to do. Sacrifice is a bad word. People avoid it. This is why the hymn "I Surrender All" is a particularly difficult one to sing. Yet, with sacrifice comes life. See how Bonhoeffer's sacrifice has encouraged the struggling German Church. See how the sacrifices of missionaries have resulted in the growth of the Church in those parts of the world they were sent to. See how Jesus through his own death brought life.

Plan well ourselves. Put the interests of others before ourselves. Prepare to live sacrificially. May this three-prong approach equip us to battle the weeds of individualism.

conrade

Our Real Lack: Not Youths but Youthfulness

I have been reading this new book called "Love Without Walls" by Laurie Beshore, a founder-pastor of Mariners Church, famous for its outreach programs. While many people tend to look at how large the church is in terms of people attending, or how big the building is, I find the most powerful testimony of it being a witness for God in terms of their outreach programs. With at least 31 outreach initiatives, Mariners Church is bringing the gospel to their neighbourhood communities in many different creative ways. There are programs to reach out to the poorer members of society, connecting with young people, as well as many humanitarian projects. The thing that most define Mariners Church is the way they help people to help themselves.

Mariners Church goes against the conventional approach of helping by "handing out," or what Beshore calls a "giveaway" culture. The gist of the argument is this: By giving out goodies to the needy we identify, we are not helping them. We are essentially disempowering them to help themselves. The best answer is in two words. Ask them. Then involve them. Then work with them, through them. This approach has made Mariners Church outreach ministries very effective and long term. Unlike conventional approaches that approach outreach on a one-shot, one-project approach that dies down after the initial rah-rah excitement, empowering the needy to help themselves not only goes a longer distance, it gives dignity back to the needy community.

We have all talked about the lack of youths in churches. My church has a problem with trying to build a youth community. Not only are youths few in number, it is getting even fewer. With no new people joining, and the present youth population transitioning into their next phase of life, it is sad to see the demise of a once flourishing youth group. Perhaps, this need not be too discouraging. This may not signal the end of the world. The key is not in the numbers of youths, but the youthfulness we bring to all we do. This is regardless of language and age. Youthfulness is not age related, but is a positive mentality. It is not something we lack, but something to cultivate in us. I remember a senior lady in one church I used to attend. Her name is Margaret. She is a passionate volunteer, always ready to lend a ear to listen to the young, and to lend a hand to participate in new areas of ministry. Despite her age, she manifests a young heart that touches the lives of people from all ages and all walks of life. She is open to learn, and also builds close relationships with the people she tries to help. Her great capacity to serve people lies in one single goal: Putting the interests of others above her own.

The trouble with many Church ministries is that there are too many artificial barriers and too many man-made rules. Why must Church ministries be called Senior Fellowship, or Young People group? Why divide them based on age? If a Church is one people, why spend time separating them from the rest of the congregation? While it is nice to enable each niche to grow deep and to minister to one another, such labels can isolate one group from the rest of the church. It is a sad development. For me, having a niche group is good, but it should not be the only thing that one gets involved in. Otherwise, there is a real danger of compartmentalizing church life into respective ministries. Ideally, we should all be organic in the way we do ministry.

Kevin Harney is big on organic relationships. One example is missions. Many churches tend to focus missions through a committee. This begs the question: What about the rest of the congregation?  Are they exempt from mission work just because the Church has a mission board in charge? No! Missions is the heart of God. It ought to be the heart of the Church. Every ministry needs a mission. Every group needs to be missional.

In the same way, youthfulness, not youth is the hope for the future of the Church. Youths grow up and leave their youth groups. Youthfulness lasts and lasts, and does not necessarily leave any group. In fact, we can also call it passion, purposefulness, or simply, youthfulness.

Youthfulness

Here are three ways to cultivate youthfulness in the Church.

1) New Blood

Every few years, have a change of leadership. This enables fresh ideas to be introduced on the one hand, and new leaders to be cultivated for the long haul. It is not the person but the process of leadership renewal that forms the vital and vibrant culture of any church. Leaders who have been on the leadership board for at least three years need to step down. Others need to step up.

2) New Wine

There is no such thing as "not gifted." Every one of us has at least one gift. Perhaps, the reason why anyone tends to be modest about their own gifts is because we have not paid enough attention to what the Spirit is speaking to us. If we know our gifts, what are we doing about it. If we do not know our gifts, how are we going about discovering our gifts. The story of Jesus turning water into wine should serve as an encouragement for us. In the presence of Jesus, at a very important wedding dinner, there seems no lack of wine when the need arises. All because of the presence of Jesus.

The Church of Jesus can take note. Will Jesus ever let the Church run out of new wine? I doubt.

3) New Life

We are made new in Christ. Our old has passed, and the new is come. Ever seen how vibrant and active young believers are? They come forward with plenty of new ideas. Unfortunately, many church culture prefer not to rock the boat, or to avoid fixing something until that something breaks. No. Innovation and new ideas come from new life. We need to learn to be open to new ideas, even if those ideas fail from time to time. Don Valencia is one person who breathes new life in everything he does. Known for his energy and never-say-die disposition, he has been credited for the science behind the popular "Starbucks Frappuccino" drink. If we can breathe new life into old systems, will that not be exciting?

Youthfulness through new blood brings about leadership renewal. Through new wine, we trust God to do the miracle. Through new life, we are re-invigorated, refreshed, and renewed.

conrade

Learning From a Child

One of the most memorable teachings of Jesus is about childlikeness.

At that time the disciples came to Jesus and asked, “Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?” He called a little child and had him stand among them. And he said: “I tell you the truth, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore, whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. “And whoever welcomes a little child like this in my name welcomes me. But if anyone causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a large millstone hung around his neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea. (Matthew 18:1-6)

Why children? Why didn't Jesus say, "Learn from the adults?" Perhaps, there is a certain innocence and purity in children. Little kids have a unique way to lowering our guard, to cause us to be more reflective on ourselves. The context of the passage above is about living humbly like a child. Accept a child. Do not stumble a child lest we receive a heavier punishment. Welcome a child for there are lots we can learn from children. If there is an innocence scale from 1 to 10, chances are, the children will be on the side of innocence, while adults on hypocrisy.

What about working parents who cheat in their offices or relationships, telling their kids not to steal? What about bosses telling their subordinates to obey the rules, but they themselves break the very rules they make? What about people telling lies when they are saying to others the importance of telling the truth? One word describes it all: Hypocrisy.

Hypocrisy is everywhere. The former President of the University of Notre Dame, Theodore M Hesburgh makes this astute observation of human behaviour that, "All of us are experts at practicing virtue at a distance." Having heard too many accusations of churches being hypocrites, I feel that hypocrisy is tainted in the hearts of all people. In some cases, hypocrisy can be described as one having double standards, or an inconsistent way of living. The one who claims he is not a hypocrite has already pronounced judgment on himself.

This video is a vivid demonstration of adults who behave one way toward children, but alone, they do the very things they tell children NOT to do. (Thanks to KP for sharing this.) Note that we can easily substitute "SMOKING" with any other examples, like stealing, vengefulness, gossip, malice, etc.


 

Do to others what you want others to do to you. In the same way you teach others, do likewise.

conrade

Five Responses to Consider (CHC Arrests)

City Harvest Church, Singapore (Credit: Asiaone)

The big news in Singapore is the arrest of key leaders, including Kong Hee, the founder of City Harvest Church, a Singapore Megachurch established in 1989. They have been charged with financial mismanagement and fraud. Arguably the single largest church in Singapore, it boasts an attendance of more than 23000 people weekly. I have attended the church meetings before, and am amazed at the vibrancy of the people, but also the huge proportion of young people. If you are to do a search on Twitter or Google, it is common to see CHC supporters expressing wholehearted allegiance to the leadership and the Church. These are the die-hard supporters. Some may even behave as if the church has been persecuted.

On the other hand, many others in the public have thrown in heaps of sarcasm and cynicism on the Church. One popular blogger, XiaXue feels "disgusted" about the "amount of deluded people praying for Kong Hee." Anger and disgust appear to be the general sentiment of the day among those outside the Church.

My blogger friend, currently based in Singapore has kindly reproduced his professor, Dr Daniel Koh's prompt response for the Christian community to consider. In a nutshell, the writer urges restraint for both groups of people mentioned above. To the first group who are pro-supporters, he suggests refraining from blind faith. To the second group who are aggressively condemning the leaders, the CHC members, he recommends suspending judgment to let justice flows its natural course. He then points all to learn to pray for all parties affected or involved in the whole process.

Like Dr Koh, I am similarly concerned for many of the younger believers in City Harvest Church. There will be repercussions. There will be a general mood of despondency among many. There will also be additional salt added to the wounds by insensitive people who behave as if they themselves are on a higher moral ground to judge.

While it is important to remember that one is innocent until proven guilty, it is fair to say that something has gone horribly wrong in the financial aspect of the Church. Whether we fault the person or persons, the organization or its poor financial transparency, or the overall investigative process, I want to focus on the assumption that the worst case is true, that the 5 leaders arrested are guilty as charged. The difference is in terms of the extent to which the charges are true. Having done that, I will suggest some way forward for any genuinely concerned or interested member of the Christian community. I will base my meditation on how King David was found out in his adultery and murder, and how he coped with it. It is important to note that while the crimes committed are different, there are teaching moments about how to cope.

Remember, the following is based on an ASSUMPTION that the charges are true. I make no final judgment on the arrests, but merely want to pose responses based on this position.

1) Call a Spade a Spade

First, the prophet Nathan helped to open the eyes of King David to his sin (2 Samuel 12:1-12). Instead of fighting back, see how David responded.

"Then David said to Nathan, 'I have sinned against the LORD.'" (2 Samuel 12:13a)

David recognized his sin. Instead of hiding, he admitted it. Even the smallest sin is still a sin. The Bible says that all of us have sinned and fall short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23). Before a Holy God, the smallest speck of sin is still sin. For those of us who argue that small sins are nothing compared to big sins, they have totally missed the significance of purity and holiness. Call a spade a spade, and stop any devilish forces from tempting us toward self-deception.

2) Suspend Judgment

I agree with Dr Daniel Koh that until investigations are complete and the courts have determined the results, we ought to suspend judgment with regards to the case. This means both ways. The pro-supporters need to suspend judgment about how "right" or how "innocent" their leaders are. It is one thing to support leaders. It is yet another to apply blind faith. The vociferous accusers and sarcastic corners of the public will also need to suspend their judgment, lest they themselves are guilty of casting the first stone. Look at Nathan's reply.

Nathan replied, “The Lord has taken away your sin. You are not going to die." (2 Samuel 12:13b)

If there is any judgment to be made, it is definitely not us distant observers. The responsibility and the ultimate Judge is God.

3) Truth Must Be Told

Whenever we read news from the media, we cannot base our entire opinion on one single piece of news. For that matter, there are also multiple news outlets, social media, and foreign reporting as well. Which do we believe? Who is speaking the truth? Remember that every piece of news material is biased to some degree. Even if we can gather all the available news material, it is still second-hand news.

• Have we seen the evidence first hand?
• Have we heard the confessions of the five leaders charged?
• Have we understood and analyzed the information gathered from the investigators?
• Have we any privy knowledge of what is actually happening, the background etc?

Truth must be told. Yet, it is not easy to get at truth. This is why we will need to be open and let any opinion or mini-conclusion be always a qualified one. See the judgment of God meted out, and see how truth is matched by action.

"But because by doing this you have made the enemies of the Lord show utter contempt, the son born to you will die.” (2 Samuel 12:14)

God is honoured when truth is revealed. Granted that David's admission of guilt has brought along harsh punishment, the important thing is when truth is revealed, the path to righteousness is lighted up. However, before that can happen, punishment needs to take its course. The painful one is the death of David's firstborn son.

4) Learn From Mistakes

David's remorse is evident from the Psalms he writes, especially in Psalm 51:1-2. The admission of guilt and the plea for mercy is nothing less than amazing. It is not justifying one's deeds, but seeking God's mercy. Unreservedly and totally.

Have mercy on me, O God, according to your unfailing love;
according to your great compassion blot out my transgressions.
Wash away all my iniquity and cleanse me from my sin.

While this is the response of David, the rest of us need to learn how to pray as well. The story of the Pharisee and the tax collector is an appropriate lesson for us to learn.

To some who were confident of their own righteousness and looked down on everyone else, Jesus told this parable:  “Two men went up to the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. The Pharisee stood by himself and prayed: ‘God, I thank you that I am not like other people—robbers, evildoers, adulterers—or even like this tax collector. I fast twice a week and give a tenth of all I get.’ “But the tax collector stood at a distance. He would not even look up to heaven, but beat his breast and said, ‘God, have mercy on me, a sinner.’

(Luke 18:9-13)

Those of us looking in from outside, are we to behave like the Pharisee, or to seek mercy like the tax collector. This is perhaps the key response tip for all of us. The CHC arrests need to make us look to behave more like the tax collector, that we recognize our own sin and weaknesses. That we do not put ourselves higher than the people at CHC. At the same time, we need to warn ourselves against any acts of self-righteousness like the Pharisee. For instance, not being arrested like the five men, does not mean we can tell everyone,

"Thank God I am not like them!"

God forbid! We are sinners and all of us are capable of doing the wrongs that have been charged. No one is immune from wrongdoing. We need mercy. We need grace. In the same way, we need to show mercy and grace to others.

5) The Gospel Must Still Be Preached - Start CLEAN

Finally, I want to acknowledge that the reputation of CHC and even for the Church at large will be negatively affected, at least for a while. We cannot run away from it. We can only pray, seek forgiveness, learn, and do our best to be competent and ethical in what we do. No one is immune from sin but everyone is capable of honouring God with doing the right thing. Let me suggest five things.

First, Comfort One Another. See how David goes to comfort his distraught wife, Bathsheba. Even though they have committed adultery, they are still people who need love and comfort. As a Christian community, we can comfort one another by praying, and by seeking to do all the good we can, in spite of all the bad that we are hearing.

Second, be always Learning. What has happened to CHC does not mean it will not happen to any other churches.

Third, Encourage one another to improve our own systems of governance. If there are weaknesses, do our best to implement checks and balances. If there are any wrongdoing by anyone, stop. Repent. Correct.

Four, Accept one another as brothers and sisters in Christ. Family members do not disown one another simply because one has committed a crime. A family is a family. We rejoice together, we grieve together, we serve together. Like Jesus said, the world will know we are His disciples through our love for one another.

Five, Need for God. May this be a time for which all Christians will turn to God in a more intensive way. We tell others that they need God, now is a time for us to demonstrate with our own lives that we ourselves need God.

Be comforting, be learning, be encouraging, be accepting, and be needful of God. Together, they form the acronym CLEAN. Through CLEAN, may the gospel be preached with our lives that are filled with grace toward one another.

Praying for mercy beginning with myself.

Conrade Yap (Dr)

BookPastor >> "Effective Men's Ministry"

TITLE: Effective Men's Ministry - The Indispensable Toolkit for Your Church
EDITOR: Phil Downer
PUBLISHER: Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2001, (256 pages).

This book is a collection of articles covering 26 topics that are important for men's ministry. It begins with a passionate introduction by Patrick Morley that urges men to understand our purpose, to create, capture, and sustain momentum in achieving this purpose. Each of the 26 contributors is a member of the National Coalition of Men's Ministries (NCMM).  There are many familiar names in the book, like Jack Hayford, Dan Schaffer, Steve Farrar, Stacey R. Rinehart, and Gary G. Bateman. The editor Phil Downer does a wonderful job in organizing the articles into five parts. The whole structure reflects the natural way in which men understands and implements plans.

1. Part One - Developing the Plan
2. Part Two - Preparing the Ground
3. Part Three - Laying the Foundation
4. Part Four - Building the Framework
5. Part Five - Creating the Structure

In Part One, we read of Dan Erickson and Dan Schaffer who writes about the need to understand men being in a contemporary culture of pressures. They then help us identify factors to make men's ministry "male-friendly" Steve Sonderman tells us exactly what men's ministry is and is not, and gives us seven essentials of men's ministry. Vince D'Acchioli shows us the way to define a vision through a four-stage process of significance, strategy, structure, and schedule. Gary G. Bateman advocates a need to be descriptive in our assessment before trying to prescribe any solution. He does that by giving us 5 steps of assessment and 20 questions to ask our men. Jack Hayford gives us a pastoral angle on exactly the kind of role pastors can do.

Part Two prepares the ground with Chip MacGregor telling us how to build a leadership team. A leader is one with a servant spirit, of character, godliness, passion, and giftedness. His part on recruiting, training, and eventually giving away the ministry to others is worth sharing widely. Steve Sonderman returns with organizational tips for men's ministry. He provides four exercises to help us build a prayer team, understand God's purpose, structuring our ministry, and evaluating it. He follows this article with a necessary article on implementation using six principles. Stacy R. Rinehart gives us his take on servant leadership and Chuck Stecker shows us the foundations of Christian Leadership. Dan Schaffer helps us distinguish the mark of leadership in terms of commitment, communication, conflict management, covenant, and collaboration.

Part Three lays the foundation farther with five contributors. Gordon England shows us how to write a good testimony to move men from self-reliance to God-dependence. Men are called to be the bridge between God and other men. Dale Schlafer writes about the central need for prayer. Rick Kingham gives us the way to learn to worship. Geoff Gorsuch encourages men to build vital relationships using the relational diamond, that at first base as acquaintances, we learn to accept one another. At second base as friends, we encourage one another. At third base as brothers, we exhort one another. Finally our home base is Christlikeness. Robert Sena brings us his take on how to overcome prejudices that prevent the building of an effective men's ministry.

Part Four enables us to build the framework on what has already been covered. Rod Cooper shows us how to create a transformational environment through the four traits of acceptance, openness, teamwork, and accountability. Phil Downer describes the process of becoming a spiritual parent from the inside out. Steve Farrar takes a compassionate approach in showing us how to work with men who have failed. Particularly interesting his his description of Moses's mid-life crisis that progresses from success to failure at age 40. Haman Cross and Thomas Fritz come together to write about unity in diversity across ethnic and racial groups. Phil Downer and Chip MacGregor show us how to move from success to significance.

Part Five is about creating a structure that can be sustained for the long haul. Chuck Brewster mentions the training necessary to prepare men to live a life of significance through discipleship, obedience, and true grit. Ed Cole talks about the role of becoming a godly husband. Steve Farrar puts in the need to be good fathers as well as good sons ourselves. Warren Hardig enriches the conversation with a short-term missions outlook. Larry Kreider describes what it takes to have successful men's retreats

The book is an encyclopedia that describes the nuts and bolts of men's ministries, put together in a readable way. It can be used as a reference. It can be used as a trigger point for ideas. It can also be used for leadership training.  Most importantly, this book is a book of ideas that ought to excite us to be creative and to be urgent on developing the men in our church. A Church with a strong men's ministry is definitely a force to be reckoned.

I highly recommend this book to all men, and all in leadership.

conrade

A Sabbath Moment

Last night, a group of brothers and sisters in Christ celebrated my graduation and for being conferred a doctorate. They invited me to share a little of my thesis. Instead of sharing details from my academic dissertation, I decided to share a story instead to give people a glimpse of what Sabbath leads us to.

The story begins with a Sabbath celebration dinner with the famous Rabbi, Baal Shem Tov. The disciples were all ready to begin the Sabbath dinner with candlelighting, eating, and singing. As one disciple was lighting the Sabbath candle, the Rabbi suddenly laughed out loud: "Ha! Ha! Ha!"

Puzzled, the disciple paused a moment, and thought if he had done something silly. He then continued the lighting and the rest continued with their eating. He gave a bowl of soup to the Rabbi. Upon his first spoonful, the Rabbi exclaimed, "Ho! Ho! Ho!"

Again, the disciples were puzzled as to what was happening with their esteemed Rabbi. Like the first instance, they then quietly ate the food before them. Soon it was time to sing some Sabbath songs. In the middle of the singing, the Rabbi let himself out uncontrollably with guffaws and laughter. Now, the disciples were really mystified with the Rabbi's three laughs. Finally, one of them asked:

"Rabbi. Can you tell us why are you laughing?"

After recollecting himself, the Rabbi said, "If you want to know, follow me."

He went out leading all the disciples with him. They then travelled to a village a distance away. Upon reaching their destination, the Rabbi asked the leaders of the village to gather in the common square. They dutifully obeyed, for the Rabbi is a revered leader. When all had gathered, the Rabbi suddenly said, "There is one family that is missing."

One of the village leaders then remembered the Bookbinder and wife. He then went to call them. When everyone had finally come together, the Rabbi said to the Bookbinder, "Can you please tell my disciples and the people in your village how you celebrate the Sabbath tonight?"

Slowly, the Bookbinder shared.

"When I was younger, I made enough money to offer something on each Sabbath. As I grow older over the years, I earn less and less, and my Sabbath offering becomes less and less. Tonight, my wife and I only managed to have bread crumbs and a bowl of water for our Sabbath meal.

I experienced a Sabbath moment then. When I see my wife lighting an imaginary candle with an imaginary match, I suddenly see the light. I see my lovely wife, the one who has stood by me all these years through thick and thin. When my wife pours me a bowl of water, I imagine it to be soup, and just the thought of my wife serving me faithfully with whatever we have fills my heart with joy. When we start to sing the Sabbath song, I see the beauty of love in my wife, and I dance, I hug, and I sing with my wife. Surely, the angels of heaven are laughing and rejoicing each time we celebrate the Sabbath with what we have. That is why every Sabbath, no matter how much or how little we have, a Sabbath moment is worth celebrating."

(Credit: http://www.candleloversdream.com/)

Sabbath moments are like these. Like the BookBinder who acknowledges the presence of his wife instead of lamenting the absence of good food and candles, we are urged to be thankful for what we have. We are encouraged to rejoice with what God has given now. We can celebrate what we have instead of complaining about what we do not have.

A Sabbath moment is about appreciating and enjoying our abundance rather than worrying about our lack. Far too often, we become too worried and pre-occupied with what we do not have, that we neglect what we have, especially the persons around us. Sabbath moments are not about looking at the things that we do not have. It is about giving thanks. It is about being grateful. It is about being gracious to one another, because God has shown us much grace.


conrade

Ten Free Public Lectures @ Regent-College

Saying that Regent-College has changed my life can be an understatement. It has transformed my Christian outlook. I recall the vision of Regent, that is largely based on Ephesians 4 to equip God's people for all good works of service. That has been nuanced in many different ways. Since its founding back in 1968, Summer School has consistently attracted many world-class theologians, leaders, and experts in their respective fields of expertise. There are also many lectures that are offered free to the public. Here are ten of them from now to the end of July.

All lectures begin at eight, at the Regent Chapel.

1. Monday June 25 Marilyn McEntyre: "Poetry, Protest, and Prayer"
   
2. Wednesday June 27 Don Lewis: "Evangelicals and Jews Together: The Origins of Christian Zionism"
   
3. Monday July 2 Dave Diewert: "The Economics of Enough"
   
4. Wednesday July 4 Rachel H. Smith: "Divining the Spirit in Contemporary Art"
   
5. Monday July 9 Ivan Satyavrata: "Slumdogs & Millionaires: The Gospel & Social Engagement in India Today"
   
6. Wednesday July 11 Jim Houston: "The Role of the Psalms in Transforming Seniors into Elders"
   
7. Monday July 16 Susan Phillips: "Shhh! The Art of Listening in an Inattentive Culture"
   
8. Wednesday July 18 Ralph Wood: "G.K. Chesterton: Rum, Romanism, and the Sacramental Imagination"
   
9. Monday July 23 Rod Wilson: "Depression, Anger, and Gender"
   
10. Wednesday July 25 John Barclay: "Because You're Worth It: Grace and Human Value"

 
If these lectures are not enough, how about walking into this spanking new library?

conrade