Sunday, July 08, 2012

Childlikeness

Today, I started the sermon series on the Seasons of Life. The purpose of the 7-part series is to rediscover the transitions of life through childhood, through adolescence, young adulthood, marriage, parenting, mid-life, and finally the golden years. Guiding our meditations will be selected portions from the book of Proverbs. My topic today was childlikeness.

Childlikeness is a Christian trait. We are all called to be children of God.
"Yet to all who received him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God - children born not of natural descent, nor of human decision or a husband’s will, but born of God." (John 1:12-13)
Yesterday, my wife and I invited a few friends over to our house for a BBQ. The adults mingle while the kids play. After running up and down the house, they decided to go outdoors with their water balloons. You know, kids loved water. Before long, they were making friends with kids in the neighbourhood. One of my neighbours kindly opened up his collection of water guns, and gleefully filled up the guns every time the water runs out. The kids were in heaven. I looked at the faces of each kid and was stunned at how intentional they were in trying to create the biggest spray on anyone in front of them. Every child had a water gun. Every child got to fill up when the need arose. Every child had fun. Great fun!

There is so much to learn from the children at play. I marvel at the lives of adults. Many of us live lives of little children. David Henry Thoreau's classic words about we adults, that, "the mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation, and go to the grave with the song still in them." In our modern society, isn't it true that the older we get, the more reserved we become? Is growing up a matter of keeping our cool, and staying prim and proper? I look at the children at play. They have one main aim. Be single-minded. Be focused. Have fun! 


Admit it. Adult lives are plain boring, when compared to the kids. This may be due to the heightened expectations of adults, or the lack of trust of people. Somehow, growing up has made people boring. Look at the kids. They have no worry. They have no fear of the future. They just be themselves. They are so intentional on having fun.


What does it mean to be a child of God? It simply means we can have fun doing all the good works, learning to trust God in spite of what happens to us. Learn not to see children as irritants who mess up our peace or our schedules. See them, and notice how God loves them. Perhaps, the problem with us 'boring' adults is simply because we have failed to notice the ordinary present enough. As a result, we become less present to the 'now,' always holding out for the 'tomorrow,' and missing out the opportunity to live well.


conrade

Saturday, July 07, 2012

Is Your Leadership Controlling or Empowering?

One of the most talked about leadership strategies among churches is to empower their congregations. As we prepare for Church tomorrow, I wonder if it is time for some of us to re-look at our own churches whether we are too controlling ourselves? Here are the different levels of control, 1 being the highest and 6 being the lowest. I adapted this from E. Stanley Ott's excellent book on Twelve Transforming Shifts.



Which closely reflects your Church?

 conrade

Friday, July 06, 2012

Ben & Jerry's Employee Benefits

This is great. Not sure if it is still valid, but it sure gives us an idea of how to make employees feel good about working for you.
  1. A pension program with company matching funds of up to 2% of an employee's salary
  2. Medical and Dental insurance (company paid)
  3. Group life term insurance
  4. Disability insurance
  5. Adoption support (company paying cost of an adoption)
  6. Maternity, paternity, and adoptionleave (Paid leave without loss of job rights and benefits)
  7. Health club (Free membership in several health clubs)
  8. Confidential employee counseling (company paid)
  9. Cholesterol screenings, hearing exams, and other wellness services (Periodic)
  10. Massage therapy (Periodic)
  11. Profit-sharing
  12. Guarantees on bank loans for house downpayments
  13. Employee stock purchase (15% below market price)
  14. Tuition aid
  15. Childcare (onsite with sliding fee schedule)
  16. Three free pints of ice-cream a day (factory seconds)
  17. Fresh-baked, free chocolate cookies delivered to everyone on Fridays.

(Thomas Naylor, William Willimon, Magdalena Naylor, The Search for Meaning, Nashville, TN: Abingdon, 1994, 165)


How's that for a Friday? Perhaps, if you have been praying for something like that (or even better) to happen to your company, why not pray that one day, when you are able to set up your own business, you can better the above for your employees?

conrade

Thursday, July 05, 2012

United We Stand

This photo makes me sit up and ponder about Eugene Peterson's book: "A Long Obedience in the Same Direction." He begins the book with a powerful observation of life: "This world is no friend to grace." If that is the case, may the Church lead the way with grace. May we all be united in God's grace, and live united as God's one people.

United we stand. (Photo Credit: Unknown)

These squirrels have something for us human people to learn from. They are united together in the same direction. Can we cultivate that in our churches?



conrade

Tuesday, July 03, 2012

12 Ways to Die Unhappy (and 12 counter steps)

Ask any parent, and one of their wishes for their children will be, "I just want them to be happy." My question to them is: "Are you happy?" Unhappiness are evident everywhere we go. On the roads, we see impatient motorists. At schools, we often see students being stressed over schoolwork and tests. At the workplace, as the economy gets tougher, the struggle to make ends meet becomes a vicious cycle of unhappiness. Employers expect workers to work more for less. Workers more often than not criticize their bosses. With pressure comes more pressure.

The list below are examples of the steps that lead to unhappiness.

Here is a list of things on how to die unhappy.
  1. Separated from yourself
  2. Separated from others
  3. Separated from the ground of your being
  4. Having never experienced any real community
  5. Trying to have it all
  6. Keeping it all to Yourself
  7. Marching to the beat of the wrong drummer
  8. Dancing to the wrong tune
  9. Fighting the wrong enemy
  10. Spending your life in a meaningless job
  11. Living your life as a series of accidents
  12. Denying your own mortality.
(Thomas Naylor, William Willimon, Magdalena Naylor, The Search for Meaning, Nashville, TN: Abingdon, 1994, 215)


Here is my list on how to counter the 12 steps that lead to unhappiness.


  1. Be self-aware.
  2. Be connected with others.
  3. Be connected deeply with one's spiritual self.
  4. Have experienced a real community.
  5. Learning to say enough.
  6. Learning to give to others.
  7. Learning to beat to the right drummer.
  8. Dancing to the right tune.
  9. Fighting the right enemy.
  10. Finding meaning in our jobs.
  11. Living intentionally.
  12. Acknowledging our own mortality, and planning for it.


conrade

Monday, July 02, 2012

BookPastor >> "The Road Trip That Changed the World"

This week, I recommend this book for cultural engagement and awareness of the deep-rooted secularism in the present world. There is hope. This review was published earlier at "Panorama of a Book Saint" here on May 18th, 2012.


conrade

TITLE: The Road Trip that Changed the World: The Unlikely Theory that will Change How You View Culture, the Church, and, Most Importantly, Yourself
AUTHOR: Mark Sayers
PUBLISHER: Chicago, IL: Moody Publishers, 2012, (288 pages).

This is a book that has an inviting title with surprising insights into how to read our modern culture. It does this by looking back to our historical past to make sense of the present. It reads our current environment of secularism and the reasons for the downward spiral of morality and the upward rise of relativism. It tells of two road trips rather than one, of the road and the home. If the sixth century marks the beginning of the home pilgrimage, the enlightenment in the 17th Century marks the beginning of the road journey. The former produces virtues such as "obedience, eternity, foundation, and devotion." The latter adopts "journey, feeling, and experience" over and above the attributes of loyalty, faithfulness, and commitments. In other words, how our modern culture has come to be is mainly because of this road trip which has resulted in our modern society becoming secular and increasingly meaningless. We are modern refugees of this road trip looking aimlessly for a home. Sayers makes a distinction between pilgrimage and secular journey. The latter relates to secularism making a trip to nowhere. The former talks about a trip that has a destiny.

Part One talks about the road narrative, Sayers points out three stages. The first stage is one of happiness, fun, and pleasure. The second stage is about the barriers that impede any progress to happiness, pleasure, and fun. The third stage is true happiness once all the obstacles are removed. In doing so, these stages reflect the traveler on a journey that progresses on the outside but remain adolescent on the inside. One's sense of lostness becomes the journey itself. The secular world is a spiritual wasteland where morality has been de-emphasized in favour of subjectivity. The transcendence has been surrendered in favour of the immanence, of immediate gratification. Such a culture has been condemned by Sayyid Qutb, an influential Islamic thinker, whose teachings have influenced Muslim terrorists, the most notorious being Osama bin Laden. As one journeys along the path of nothingness, aimlessness, and meaninglessness, people soon believe that nothing matters. Since the 60s, the Church has been declining. The spiritual climate of America has been "Californianized" into a culture of individualism, narcissism, materialism, and entertainment. In a secular environment without morality, it is easy to objectivize women, rank feelings above faith, prefer the therapeutic above transcendent beings, nonconformity over authority, and where absolute freedom becomes an intense form of slavery. Jesus becomes not a deliver of sin but one who grants wishes and delivers wants. There is also a lot of cultural observations on social media why we reveal so much of ourselves in public, on why we continue to watch in glee the humiliations of people on TV, and how we remain connected online but disconnected from everyday life. We prefer the sensational 'wow' instead of the firm Word.

Thankfully, Sayers does not end by giving secularism the prize. The end of the road narrative is the cross. There is hope. There is truth coming amid our gloomy journey of doom. Part Two is about the home narrative. One of the first things we need to go up against is our tendency toward pleasure, comfort and a negativity-adverse mindset. Instead, the essence of life is to be willing to embrace our "fragility and mortality" and be open to be led back to God. Instead of Jack Kerouac's "On The Road" metaphor, Sayers proposes we learn with Cormac McCarthy's "The Road" which begins with a deserted and desolate world. Without the distractions of attractive options, we are forced to seek out the fundamentals of life, to do what is deeply necessary, and ultimately most meaningful. It reflects a life of sacrifice, of putting others above self. It reflects a life of dependence on the transcendent. It is a call back to the "old kind of Christian" that is concerned about belonging to God and a real community. It is that kind that is mindful of one's true identity and destiny. The journey is no longer an aimless one of wandering in the wilderness, but a purposeful one of traveling the path toward God. Page after page, Sayers pulls in biblical images, personalities, and Scriptural references to paint a picture of hope of the future kingdom. In contrast to the secular image of building a home on the road, Sayers gives us an image of moving homeward while traveling on the road. The key to this homeward narrative is in getting God right first. We need to rid our idols and to accept God's sovereignty over us. For our sake. For our children's sake. For our community's sake. For our society's sake.

Further Thoughts

I must say that this is one of the most insightful books that intelligently analyzes the modern secular environment, and points us to reasons why it is secular. It blasts the Western model of Church that has substituted personal self-discovery instead of discipleship, self-actualization under the guise of worship. It cleverly adopts the secular terms and models that we are all accustomed to, makes a measured interpretations of it all in the light of both Christian and non-Christian literature, and explains the predicament of the Church so that the Church can do something about it. I admit that the first part of the book seems to be more depressing and painful to read. While the insights look so spot on and distressing, it leaves me gasping for Part Two. After all, it cannot be all that bad, I thought. I am grateful that from the point of the Cross, things change for the better. The road trip can be redeemed. The pilgrimage can be set right. The world has hope in God.

Well-researched and eloquently argued, this book is a must for anyone interested in Christianity and culture, evangelism and mission in the urban Western environment. I have not read Mark Sayers before, but after this book, I am looking forward to the next.


Rating: 5 stars of 5.

conrade


This book is provided to me free by Moody Publishers and NetGalley without any obligation for a positive review. All opinions offered above are mine unless otherwise stated or implied.

Sunday, July 01, 2012

On Worship

May your day be filled with joy as you worship the Lord in your various communities of faith.

Happy Canada Day!


conrade

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